When you think about the word trust, who or what comes to mind? What stories or narratives around trusting yourself or others emerge?
Daring To Trust by David Richo has quickly and easily become a valuable reference point on exploring trust with others and with ourselves.
The book begins with a deep and practical exploration of our history of trust, which is one of my favourite things to do with clients who are looking for a deeper lens to explore their attachments and trauma around this topic.
Beyond the 4 labels of attachment (anxious, secure, disorganized and avoidant), how do we meaningfully engage in trusting and safe relationships? What learnings might arise when we dive deeper into our personal history and past experiences?
I have to thank my own therapist Michelle here, because without her recommendation to this author, I would not have found this book when I needed it the most.
My own journey toward learning what has impacted my relationship to trust came to light after a difficult work experience. Add in multiple betrayals by people I believed at the time truly cared about my well-being and career, and I was in a personal head spin. Daring To Trust was and still is the clarity I needed, and the words that helped me sort through some deep and complicated feelings.
This book has personally taught me so much about the dark corners of my own wounds, and offers tender and clear reflections of the ways we hide ourselves, sow distrust in relationships, and avoid the intimacy of being known. It is an unexpected gem with lasting insight and wisdom.
Each chapter unfolds a lesson on intimacy, finding and sustaining safety, trusting your instincts, childhood wounds, expectations and fantasies of trust, and many more.
If you have ever wondered whether you can really ever trust another person, or are processing the harms of betrayal, trauma and pain, or working through vulnerability and opening up to emotional intimacy—this book might be for you.
If you’ve ever asked yourself the questions: Am I too trusting of others? or Can I trust myself to cope? Then this book might be for you too.
As always, take what you need and leave the rest. Engage mindfully and critically with every resource you consume.
Friends— have you read Daring To Trust? If so, tell me what you think. Are you adding this to your TBR list?
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